Welcome to Your Private Boudoir
A safe space for your self-discovery.
Our photo adventures, creative retreats and story salons invites you into your own journey of discovery. Think of it as a creative rite of passage – a way to mark the thresholds, transitions and milestones of your life with personal meaning and artful expression.
In the boudoir we tell stories, get storied, and let our stories find us.
By engaging our hands, hearts, minds and souls in a creative experimentation and experiences, we release our overly rational minds and outlooks and instead enter into our inner subconscious world and imagination. Here possibility dwells, here we get to meet facets of ourselves, we've discarded, lost, forgotten or never knew existed. Here the marvelous, the magic, the unexpected arises.
We work with the art and power of storytelling - visual, written, danced and filmed - and take inspiration from art, literature, films, the feminine hero's journey, archetypes and symbolism. We may dance, seek nature and perform spontaneous rituals.
Are you ready to...
- Unleash your inner adventurer and the power of story in you?
- Get naked with your narratives and ignite a more luscious, expansive story?
- Create a fresh vision and visibility for yourself?
- Give yourself permission to change and want a new experience?
- Get the fuel and freedom for the next creative leg of your journey?
- Unleash the untamed, alive and awakened women within?
Why don't you slip into something a little more silky + true? Your muse awaits you...
Give your life and stories expression. Bring curiosity, an open heart and your sense of adventure.
For women of all ages and stages of life. On occasion, we welcome the gents.
The Story of Lolo's Boudoir...
Like most marvelous things in life, it began with a few innocent ideas.
Lolo's Boudoir started by a series of coincidences. In my early 30s, I became fascinated with the power of the light in visual storytelling and bought an old Nikon F2 to explore black and white photography. My husband's birthday was coming up and I wanted to surprise him with a book of sexy photos. Inspired by my mother-in-law's ornate home, I'd just transformed our bedroom into a lush boudoir, complete with heaven bed, cranberry red walls and a candelabra, and on a spontaneous note, I asked a friend to photograph me there.
At first I felt like a deer in headlights, awkward and shy, but a boa of black frivolous feathers around my neck egged on my inner superstar – soon I was sexy, sassy, silly and silky. As dormant facets of my womanliness came to life, the initial intent of making my guy remember the woman he fell in love with lost interest, because, I was fast falling in love with myself.
The next day I returned the favor and photographed my friend. We laughed and had so much fun, agreeing that this was such a liberating experience, something every woman should give to herself. The seed to Lolo's was sown.
I began photographing friends and friends of friends. In 2004 I officially opened Lolo’s Boudoir in Sausalito. Apparently, I wasn't the only woman in need of her own space to explore and embrace her body, sexuality, creative expression and power. Since, hundreds of women of all ages, shapes and walks of life have found their way to Lolo’s Boudoir. Some have come to heal low self-esteem, body issues and sexual trauma, others to celebrate themselves or have a new adventure.
The Art of Seeing And Being Seen
Everyone longs to be seen, but we are terrified of seeing ourselves, as we are.
Initially, I thought my work was about light and aperture and flamboyant play, but it turned out to be far more poignant and profound. Something happened when I picked up the camera and asked a woman to “get naked” and show herself. There was no place to hide, neither the seer and the seen. It was as if her shames, scars and stories in her body showed up in the room: a defended chest, eyes looking away, rigid hips and put-on smiles. The moment felt potent, rich and drew me closer.
My job became less about photographing and more about teasing out the woman within; less about composing perfect images and more about offering a safe space for women to explore and express themselves on their own terms.
The camera have helped the women and I move past the usual pretense and postures and delve deeper into our relationship to our bodies, beauty, sexuality and ever-evolving womanhood. In our photo play, we've fumbled our way towards personal and meaningful expression; a collaborative process that let each woman find strength in rediscovering herself – fantasizing, feeling awkward, exploring what is sensual, sexy to her, what feels real, what doesn’t
Together, we've navigated the tender terrain with play, humor and honest conversations. Over time, the photographic process have deepened, our understanding evolved, and focus shifted, we've added workshops and retreats, but the purpose has remained the same: to give our lives and stories expression, to awaken to our own skin, hearts, truths and aliveness.
Today, I have no doubt. We create these images so that we can step into them. We need to re-imagine ourselves, rekindle a sense of reverence for our female body and being, and come alive inside our own skin. I've made the book Unveiled to share about our deep, intimate and transformative experience. I hope to get it into your hands soon.
whAT'S in a name?
The name and concept of Lolo's Boudoir was inspired by my alter ego Miss Lolo, the archetype of a liberated, sensual woman, Virginia Wolf's Room of Her Own and the lush French boudoirs to add a touch of sensuality and decadence.
Boudoir is often translated to 'pout' - a women's room to pout and sulk and take time out for herself. In times when the sight of a woman reclining with a book was considered sensually transgressive (oh my, what might she be feeling and experiencing inside that book and mind of hers?), the boudoir was eroticized by men, who liked to fantasize (and contain) female pleasures within a private room, in the house.
But in Lolo's Boudoir we neither pout, pose or contain our eroticism, pleasures and powers; here we reclaim it, enjoy it, explore it, on our own terms. Miss Lolo is our indomitable muse.
The Traveling BOUDOIR
Today Lolo's Boudoir travels with me everywhere I go as a magical and secret playground for our stories and visions; here we get to drop our veils, express our many facets, and find freedom, to be, ourselves.
Opening the door to your inner sensual and imaginative world takes courage: your pulse might quicken, you blush, and feel new vitality rise. Step inside. A new journey begins....